Experiencing heartbreak is an inevitable part of being alive unless you are, of course, a non-human and therefore not subject to human conditions. Then again, even ET who was a visitor from another planet felt the heartbreak of being separated from his loved ones. Maybe heartache, like its’ counterpart love, transcends from being simply a human condition to being a condition of the heart. Therefore, all having a heart, soul and the ability to love must also feel the sting of heartache. The question is, once you’ve felt it, how do you learn to love again?
As Christians, we are all called to love one another, but what about those who have shattered our hearts to the point where we no longer even recognize that part of us that loved them in the first place? How do we recover that love, even if only for the purpose of forgiveness? At its worst, a broken heart feels as if something inside has been ripped from your very being and until it’s gone, you never knew how vital it was. How is it then possible to learn to love again when you’re missing so much that was inside of you before you were changed? Is it even possible to love in the same way again?
Of course not…Once you have been broken and beaten by love, you’ll never love the same way again.
You’ll love even better!
- You won’t fall in love with blinders on, but you will want to see everything, even those things you may not like. You’ll know that seeing the true picture is far better than seeing the one that you want to see.
- You won’t be willing to compromise your true self for what you feel the other person wants you to be. You’ll know that honesty is always the best way to find a love that is true and sustainable.
- You won’t silence that little but persistent voice that whispers to you to pay attention. You’ll understand that the voice is for you and not against you. It doesn’t want to keep you from love, instead, it wants to keep you from the pain that it senses is imminent.
- You won’t be afraid to walk away from something if you recognize it’s not right for you. You’ll know that walking away from the wrong thing often leads you to the right thing.
- You won’t be afraid of being hurt. You’ll know that you’ve survived pain that you never thought you could and you will survive again if need be. You will refuse to let fear stop you from loving with strength, purpose and intent.
The silver lining of the heartache from your past is that it serves as a teacher, helping you weed out the immature, detrimental love habits that you once bore. You will never love the same way again and you and your heart will be the better for it. The best is yet to come!