Patricia L. Brooks, founder and president of the Scottsdale Society of Women Writers and Brooks Goldmann Publishing, LLC, recently agreed to answer questions for Examiner about her new book. A memoir dealing with love addiction, domestic violence and post-traumatic stress, “Three Husbands and a Thousand Boyfriends” is available on Amazon.com. A portion of the proceeds from its sale will benefit the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence.
Q: Why do you call your new book a memoir and not an autobiography?
A. Because a memoir is written about a segment of your life, and this is written about the part of my life that covers love addiction, domestic violence and post-traumatic stress. That is what memoir is: a portion of your life, a section of your life, a theme in your life. It is not a chronology of your life. That is what an autobiography is. Memoir works better for noncelebrities like me who have something of value to share, something that happened to them, an experience that they can share where they became an authority. I feel that on the issues I discussed in my book, I have learned a lot. A biography works much better for a celebrity where readers might be interested in learning about their entire life and their rise to fame.
Q. What made you willing to reveal so much of your personal life to the world? Did you have any hesitation?
A. A lot of what I’ve written about happened quite a few years ago. It took me a long time to find the courage to do it, but I’ve had a lot of recovery from the PTSD and from the traumas, and I know that I can be very helpful to a lot of women. I think it’s important for me to speak out about love addiction, too, and at 65 years old, I’m not concerned about doing it. I feel it is something that I need to do.
Q. What do you want your readers to take away?
A. That there is no shame or guilt in telling this kind of a story, that people can heal from these kinds of things, that there’s more to addiction than just drugs. I want to make people more aware of what we all have in common and bring more light on the subjects, and hopefully more people will come out of the shadows.
Q. What’s next on your horizon? Are you working on another memoir?
A. Yes, my next memoir, which I’ve been working on for the past year, is about my spiritual transformation during my 30+ years in Alcoholics Anonymous recovery. I’m breaking my anonymity, but I feel that I can be very helpful to a lot of people and can really show that there is success. I want to do that because the statistics are not there, and many people haven’t seen success in a lot of their friends and neighbors and relatives.
An award-winning author and workshop facilitator on writing-related topics, Brooks has also written “Gifts of Sisterhood: Journey from Grief to Gratitude” in memory of a sister who died from lung cancer. She also speaks on domestic violence issues with the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence and speaks in the recovery field on the topic of love addiction. She currently lives in Scottsdale, Arizona, with her husband, Earl L. Goldmann.
On Friday, Feb. 5, 1–3 p.m., Brooks will speak on the topic of Choosing or Creating Your Own Critique Group at the Desert Foothills Library, 38443 N. Schoolhouse Road, Cave Creek, Arizona. On Sunday, Feb. 20, 11 a.m.–2 p.m., she’ll join two other authors at a benefit luncheon to raise money for women’s scholarships. The P.E.O. event will take place at Desert Palms Presbyterian Church, 13459 W. Stardust Boulevard, Sun City West.