Howdy everyone while embracing yourselves. I am back and better than ever. Fierce, stronger and full of life. The headline is ironically pertained to, “the good, the bad and the ugly.”
Although my name is appearing as “Kimberly Morrow (now legally Kimberly Newsom)” don’t let the old name fool you. Five years can seriously change a woman and her perspectives on life, men and relationships. Sadly my quick fingers abruptly deleted my last article. Happily I am re-writing what I feel will help differentiate the P’s and Q’s of why some men can’t stay faithful to the one’s they CLAIM they love. Basically this is calling out the bonafide’ man slut.
First I will address the “fling.” The fling usually occurs when a man is stressed, overwhelmed and can’t handle being a man. Social media, co-workers or local bars lure him in easily. He’s not able to handle stress or emotion. So he finds something (or someone) to take his mind off of the daily stresses a real man can handle without cheating. Honestly, if he can’t stay off the internet without looking as boobs, butts and pretty Facebook pictures? He isn’t worth keeping anyways. The flings usually only last a few weeks or less. Remember his mind isn’t in the right to begin with. He want’s nothing serious with the side trash whore anyways. Total time invested? Maybe a few texts, phones calls, cheap hotels and in less than a month or so. She’s on another website to meet another man whore. Then usually the man whore returns to his significant other with high hopes SHE will not find out. Nine out of ten times? The faithful woman has no idea she picked the lowest of the low. Personally he has issues keeping his, “ding-a-ling” in his pants. Enough said.
Now the “Affair,”? That is a a little more complicated. The involved man insists emotionally that although HE is involved in a marriage/relationship that HE does not want to end the hidden relationship. It’s an ongoing love affair for months. Not days or weeks. It’s months or even years.Sadly, there are no winners here. Just great occasional sex and lies. Honestly, it’s a waste of everyone’s time, emotions, vows and trust. It’s similar to pre-made cookie dough. It’s convenient, sweet and easy to bake when needed.
So last but not least, I have to address the “dead end relationship.” There is nothing left, there is nothing to hope for and no one even feels the need to abide by any relationship rules. Both involved are miserable and the man may just stays married/or married by law for years and years, never even really having any contact with his wife or long term “live in girlfriend.” Other than, eating dinner, saying hello once in a blue moon and maybe if he’s drunk enough, will give her a hug without cringing. Maybe they don’t even fight..probably because he is never late to work and never home early enough to have to realize that it’s probably not even worth the fight to file for divorce or even pack up and leave. It’s a lost cause but do-able. Lord only knows what this category of men do. It probably glorifies the fling and the affair. It’s a lost cause and nothing more. It’s the perfect Facebook post once in awhile. But it’s all a facade. If it’s real love? Then more power to ya.
So there you have it. My opinion and sadly past experience with men who just shouldn’t ever even attempt to commit. There’s no point in wearing a ring or claiming a relationship status if it’s just a figment of pure imagination. Temporary satisfaction can lead to ungodly decisions but at the end of the day? What someone doesn’t know won’t hurt them, so the saying goes isn’t a saying to live by. Truthfully? The only person getting hurt is the person engaging in the wrong-doing. If a man can’t stay faithful then he needs to stay single. Bottom line. No if, and’s or buts. Don’t hurt an innocent woman who deserves a real honest man. Truth is? A good and faithful man is hard to find. However? It’s up the man which category he puts himself in.
Kimberly Newsom 2016