Whether it is someone you’ve worked with at your company or someone from an online dating service, you’re excited to finally have a date with someone to whom you’re really attracted. It’s time to bring the very best you forward and, that includes your etiquette and manners. Here are some tips to help you get things going in the right direction.
Regardless who did the asking out, find out what the other person might enjoy. Generally speaking, it’s hard to go wrong with going out to dinner together. If you believe this person is truly “the one” for you, then save up to take him or her to the very best restaurant you can afford. First impressions are lasting impressions and, in most cases (although not necessarily in all cases) going to a very nice restaurant over a fast food chain is usually a huge step in the right direction. Additionally, if you know the other person has a serious allergy to shellfish then selecting a seafood restaurant probably isn’t the smartest move on your part. When in doubt — ask!! It is also proper to inform the other person about where you are going so that he or she can dress appropriately.
Select an outfit that really flatters you. Even if you’re going to a ballgame, just selecting a pair of jeans that flatter your body type can make a huge difference in how you look, so, do put some effort into it. Just don’t grab the first thing you find in your closet. Of course, it is a given that you will have bathed from head to toe, brushed your teeth and used mouth-wash, and, did all the necessary grooming to look your best for your date.
Yes, flowers are still welcome! In a world where people continue to strive to be equal and gender lines are blending, often we don’t know whether or not flowers are an appropriate token of affection to bring to a first date. Generally speaking, yes, it is appropriate and welcome — just be sure she (or he) isn’t allergic! The extra step of bringing flowers or some other little token gift will not be forgotten!
Guys show her chivalry isn’t dead! Open the car door for her. Ladies, allow him to do so without making a political statement!
Keep conversation personal but, non-invasive. For example, it’s perfectly ok to ask about someone’s job or where they grew up. It’s crossing an invisible line if you ask someone how much they make or call someone a “rich kid” if they grew up in an affluent area. It only demonstrates a serious lack of class and lack of respect for the other person. It does NOT show that you’re interested in the person other than the size of their wallet and that is never ok! Likewise, it is NOT ok to Foursquare your location on social media to let your friends know he has taken you to the most expensive restaurant in town.
At the end of the evening, if the connection just wasn’t there — be honest. Don’t string the other person along. It is far better to disappointment them now than crush or destroy them later because you didn’t find the way to tell the other person you don’t feel the same way. A good night kiss is appropriate if the chemistry is there for the both of you and, a text on the cell phone immediately following the date is a sure way to put the other person at ease knowing you had a good or even great time. It will more than likely result in a follow up phone call and second date! Do NOT post photos on social media from a first date without the express permission of the other person. It might be your phone or camera but, the other person has a right to know if they are publicly being put on display!
Follow these simple steps of etiquette and you should have a good, if not great first date. Just keep you’re best foot forward, be yourself and you’ll be fine! Good luck!