In the days following Stone Temple Pilots and Velvet Revolver singer Scott Weiland’s death, ex-wife Mary Forsberg Weiland has opened up in a deeply emotional letter about the late singer’s long battles with addiction. Written with help from their teenage children Lucy and Noah, she touched upon the demons that Weiland faced and how badly it affected his relationship with her as well as with his kids.
“The truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope” she wrote. She also revealed that the struggles continued long after their divorce, and the challenges that she faced in trying to help her ex-husband so he could be present in their children’s life. “Even after Scott and I split up, I spent countless hours trying to calm his paranoid fits, pushing him into the shower and filling him with coffee, just so that I could drop him into the audience at Noah’s talent show, or Lucy’s musical. Those short encounters were my attempts at giving the kids a feeling of normalcy with their dad.”
She went on to say that she continually encouraged Weiland and even offered support as Weiland entered into another marriage with his last wife, Jamie.
“When Scott did move on to another relationship, I hoped it would inspire him to grow. I had often encouraged him to date a “normal” girl, a woman who was also a mother, someone who had the energy that I no longer had to love him. Instead, when he remarried, the children were replaced. They were not invited to his wedding; child support checks often never arrived. Our once sweet Catholic boy refused to watch the kids participate in Christmas Eve plays because he was now an atheist. They have never set foot into his house, and they can’t remember the last time they saw him on a Father’s Day.”
Forsberg Weiland said that her ultimate goal in writing the letter was not to point fingers or to negate the musician’s talents but rather to call attention to an alarming trend that is happening all too often, especially in the music world.
“We don’t want to downplay Scott’s amazing talent, presence or his ability to light up any stage with brilliant electricity. So many people have been gracious enough to praise his gift. The music is here to stay. But at some point, someone needs to step up and point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it. We read awful show reviews, watch videos of artists falling down, unable to recall their lyrics streaming on a teleprompter just a few feet away. And then we click “add to cart” because what actually belongs in a hospital is now considered art…If you’re a parent not giving your best effort, all anyone asks is that you try just a little harder and don’t give up. Progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for. Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”
Scott Weiland was found dead on his tour bus on December 3rd in Bloomington, MN by his personal manager.
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