Do you find yourself blaming everyone for your circumstances, or even for the state of your life? It is hard to look beyond what seems to be another failure and see our own reflection, but it doesn’t serve you to waste time pointing the finger and blaming someone else for where you may be in your life.
Words easily roll off our lips and we say things to please others. Many times, we may say yes when we really mean no. Being politically correct or over conscious with regards to hurting someone else’s feelings only serves to trap us further within the our self-created web. When you practice blame or judgement on other people, you are filled with resentment and sadness. This practice takes the focus off the only thing within your control, which is you. Being cognitive of what you say and how you act are essential to any change or growth.
There comes a time when you recognize that you must stand up and become you own hero and shero. No one else can walk your path, live your life, nor take on your battles successfully. When you take a stand on your own behalf, you not only honor your needs, but you take action towards creating the best life that’s in alignment with who you came here to be. What are some ways to practice being true to one’s self? Here are a few defining actions that will lead you there.
The ability to practice courage and determination are part of it, but attitude is key. When you have the right attitude, you allow clarity of thought and fearlessness to lead you to your purpose. I can tell you that those are the easy tasks. The most difficult requirement is awareness, but once you awaken to your life, a sliver of light bursts open the door to living rather than existing!
Dare to truly look inside your heart and soul and shine a light on what it yearns for. What are your deepest longings? Usually, it has to do with feeling comfortable in your own skin and being able to look at where you are in this moment in time, and have no regrets. It is the ability to believe you are living your most vibrant, and joyful life now, and not looking back to ask what happen or where did I go off course. Sometimes it takes getting to a place where you realize you lost your way or your drive for discovery. That can produce a knee-jerk reaction to deflect blame on someone else.
Our moods and degree of satisfaction sometimes rely on who, what and why people and events are in our life. Very often we think we have no control over these things, but there is only one person who does have control over the way you feel; the way you interact and live your life, and that is you.
So how does one become their own hero or shero?
All that is required is honesty, a desire to change, vigilance in keeping true to your core beliefs, and forgiveness to yourself, and to those who have hurt you. A difficult task perhaps, but really quite simple. I always say those who hurt me the most, loved me the greatest, because they taught me the hardest, but most life-altering lessons.