If you’re in a relationship where there are more doubts than trust ask yourself are both of you in the relationship? There are no such couples who are perfect. Every couple in the universe has gone through or will go through difficulties. When you hear your best friend or a family member brag of how perfect their relationship is it’s usually the opposite.
Every couple has their ups and downs. It’s just that many of them choose not to show that part of themselves to anyone let alone family members. In their eyes they insist there is nothing wrong with their bond for one another. This should be cause for concern. If you’re having issues with your partner why not accept that fact and discuss it with them? Why do people not want to admit to themselves “It’s not working?” So much time and energy wasted by not dealing with the matters.
Here is an example: There are many women who are paired with someone or married and know very well their partner is cheating. What do they do? Well, a certain percentage of these women remain in the relationship and stay quiet; they just accept the infidelity. In some strange way they believe “It’s just a phase and they’re the one they truly love because they have a family together.” This may easily be the case for some. Some women will accept this behavior to keep their family as one. Men are a different story. If they have seen their partner has been unfaithful many of them walk out that moment. It’s a macho thing for some men. They will not accept it & leave. Then you have you’re more emotional male who will accept what occurred, deal with it by moving forward or looking the other way. It’s their choice.
No union is perfect. What works for some couples will not work for others. Friends, family or the world shouldn’t involve themselves in your issues with each other. This could possibly make things worse. You should keep in mind they mean no harm they’re only looking out for your emotional well being.
So what do you do when you’re in this type of relationship? No one wants to feel the humiliation of being told you’re being cheated on. Or the person you’re interested in is not what you believe them to be. If you know this about your partner; don’t remain silent. It is best to speak your mind. Yes, it is easier said than done and you may feel like your risking your relationship/marriage. Stop and think don’t you think your partner has already done that by whatever caused him or her to have an affair? It is best to never look the other way. Your feelings are just as valid as theirs. When you keep your emotions locked inside it can turn into something entirely different. Hidden emotions can become hostile, dangerous, toxic bombs inside of you just waiting to explode at any time. You just may end up hurting yourself more by ignoring what you truly feel.
To those couples who communicate with each other about their problems; good for you. It can go either way of moving forward or letting go. It saves all the drama and heartache to the person you’re involved with their relatives and friends.
Keep in mind that many couples who choose not to display their personal problems don’t mean they’re living in a delusional world. It just shows they have more comfort not putting their matters in public view. However if they choose to not even acknowledge the fact of the cheating then they themselves are living in a delusional relationship or perhaps an open one.
It all comes down to all types of relationships not being perfect. We as human beings shouldn’t be judging anyone. If you see a close friend or relative who you believe to be in an unhealthy relationship; do not question it unless it is brought up by them.