Recent findings from the Roy Morgan Research group revealed that married people enjoy better mental health than any other marital status, avoiding things like “anxiety, depression and panic attacks,” according to Sunshine Coast Daily. Having someone to love makes one feel more stable and secure in most things, but in order to enjoy the full benefits, it’s important for couples to commit to their mental health within the confines of the marriage.
“This can be easier said than done, especially when the honeymoon phase is over.” notes a spokesperson for the divorce forms site MyDivorcePapers (MDP).
“The definition of insanity — doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results — that can apply to a marriage once the new has worn off,” the spokesperson explained. “Only by being equipped mentally to face the challenges of the rest of your marriage can you hope to achieve the results that the research group found.”
MyDivorcePapers.com, which provides affordable divorce forms solutions for those looking to file for divorce, recommends the following In order to stay strong mentally within the marriage:
Be quicker to forgive than to argue. “Arguing is an essential part of marriage because it teaches you both to work through your differences and achieve conflict resolution,” said the spokesperson. “It also helps you teach your kids about conflict resolution. But the moment arguing crosses over from finding a solution to trying to be right, you need to take a step back and allow forgiveness to kick in.”
Forgiveness is more than accepting someone who says they’re sorry, the spokesperson adds. “It’s about unburdening ones self of the small things, so they can focus more on solutions while respecting their partner’s point of view.”
Grab some alone time when you need it. “People don’t have to do anything remarkable to reap the full benefits of alone time,” the spokesperson explained. “Simply reading a book or having a glass of wine and a bubble bath are great ways of recharging their batteries. They don’t need to lose sight of those quiet moments when it’s just them with their thoughts. There has to be a dividing line from the relationship.”
Parent as a team. “Since a majority of divorcees have children, we felt it necessary to include this,” said the spokesperson. “Kids can drive you up a wall, and it’s even worse when you’re not acting as a team. That’s why you have to support each other even when you may not agree with the other parent’s point of view. You can always take those differences up in private. Don’t allow the kid to think they can play you against each other, or they will.”
By tackling parenting as a team, it’s easier for Mom and Dad to maintain control and discipline of the household, the spokesperson adds. “It makes the parenting load much lighter for sure, and that carries with it positive mental health benefits for your relationship.”