An elementary school in Delaware has created much publicity for itself, but it surely cannot be labeled favorable publicity. Apparently, a great many people are now aware of the email sent out in the Brandywine School District by Lombardy Elementary and the media dubs it either “an honest mistake” or an “epic prank gone wrong.” Online sources are still buzzing about the Hurt Feelings Report. Parents are accustomed to the communication from their childrens’ school except this one caught them by surprise.
Delaware Online first sourced this issue and raises very important questions – Has the school been passing out Hurt Feelings Report forms to children who raise a bullying issue or are being hassled? Does the school have an adult or adults that do not take persecution seriously? Do children stay silent when and if they are mocked by others?
The form is shown in its entirety as an image to this article. Readers can also view it by following this link to dbtechno.com. When reading the form and all its questions, it certainly appears as a prank form that in many variations has probably made the rounds online or on some joke sites. It cannot possibly be used as a legitimate form, can it?
It is easy to understand that parents were shocked or stunned or surprised upon reading the Hurt Feelings form. Many were probably outraged or offended. The one-page blank form was mistakenly attached to an email communication sent by Lombardy Elementary to announce the approaching event “Exercise Your Brain Day” at the Brandywine Hundred school. Evidently, the parents truly read the newsletter because the form was discovered quickly. One parent told Delaware Online that the form is completely offensive and ridicules children who are bullied. Another said that it was a dumb prank but he did not think it was malicious. Yet another father simply said, “If the children didn’t see it, what is the problem?” Basically, parents did not see the form as harmful but declined to be named in any articles.
The form asks the patronizing question, “Which ear were the hurtful words spoken into?” and the taunting, “Has this resulted in traumatic brain injury?” Students can fill in a name in the blank that asks, “Whiner’s name?” In addition, this form has a misspelling and uses inappropriate language and can easily be written off as prank “jokester” material.
However, there remain the issues of dispersing it to parents, how could that happen and have the Lombardy Elementary children seen this form. A spokeswoman for the school district explained that an [anonymous] employee at the school accidentally sent out the form, after receiving it from an outside source. She continued:
This was an embarrassing mistake, but it was just that – a mistake. It should not have happened, and we apologize for the error.
Anna Mendez, executive director of the San Clemente, California-based National Association of People Against Bullying, believes that the Brandywine School District needs to improve its anti-bullying procedures. However, the school district has undertaken efforts to accomplish exactly that. It has an established anti-bullying committee and a bona fide online form for use in reporting bullying incidents.