Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have been married for the past thirty-one years. They have held together through thick and thin over the years. During the time they have shared together with their nineteen children there have been ups and downs, hard times and financial difficulties that many other married couples have also experienced. Couples argue and have disputes among themselves, so if Michelle and Jim Bob experience the same type of arguments, then why is the outcry of the public; insistent upon thinking divorce is in the works? In a news story shared by US Magazine on March 29, this isn’t the case. The story revealed that the couple is very much in love and is sharing five tips for a strong marriage and a book for couples to reference titled, “His Needs, Her Needs” authored by Willard F. Harley.
The first reason that comes to mind is because they are in the public eye on a daily basis since they have obtained a celebrity status. The second reason is that the family is having difficulties dealing with the outpour of negative publicity they have endured over the past year. A lot of people have come to the conclusion that the Duggar family is, perfect in every aspect. This is a falsehood and the Duggar family would be first to say this isn’t so. They are a normal family and deal with many issues any other family might have to deal with, the only difference is normal families don’t have every moment of their lives open to the public; they don’t have their failures announced in newspapers, across media sites or shared in magazines.
If everyone’s lives were documented daily as the lives of the Duggar’s are nothing would be private, every move they make would be scrutinized for all to comment on, which usually results in more negative comments than positive ones. If this occurred no one would be pleased to have their dirty laundry exposed to the world, they wouldn’t have a private life and eventually would have to close off their ways and doings so no one would be able to speculate if there is more to the story, imagine they have something to hide and make life miserable because they have to account for everything that is exposed by the media and deal with the scrutiny of what extended family members and friends may now think of them after reading and hearing unfavorable stories about their lives. They would be devastated and would hope others would think twice before publicizing their life stories and troubles. Unfortunately, the Duggar family members have it worse than a normal family because of their celebrity status.
That being said, news stories are flying everywhere speculating that Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have been constantly arguing and that friends believe these heated disagreements may break the family apart by taking sides or simply leading to divorce. Granted, the Duggar’s have had a tougher time with media exposure than most families ever could imagine dealing with as well as the issues they had in the past and present pertaining to their son Josh. That doesn’t mean their marriage will be destroyed because of the problems they are experiencing. It most likely means that this Christian family will hold the reins tighter, hold onto what they have and created over the years to remain strong, their love for each other and their children will become stronger, not weaker in view of any crisis they encounter now, in the future and those that occurred in the past.
The Duggar’s are keeping their strength by not giving into the rumors that a divorce is eminent in their future. Instead, they are ignoring these rumors completely. Segments have been seen on social media networks where they are defending their marriage. This is not something a couple should have to do to prove to anyone. Their marriage is strong and is built on faith, love and togetherness. Michelle and Jim Bob shared this on their site; “We are more in love today than when we married almost 32 years ago! By God’s grace, out marriage is the strongest and sweetest it has ever been!” Within the post they also shared some marital advice for other couples to take advantage of if they feel they are in need or having troubles of their own.
Jim Bob was heard saying he “wants to put his family first”, this isn’t anything new. This concept is something they have been doing for decades. On the other hand, Michelle was heard saying she “ needs to move on, put things in the past and as always, put family first, but now, she wants to take a more cautious approach”, which isn’t something to brush off, nor a reason to argue with her husband about since it is a mature and motherly attempt to keep peace within the family with hopes that future endeavors move forward calmly, keeping everyone in their family unit healthy, happy, united and sharing the love and faith they built their marriage and reared their children on from the very beginning. All of this came to light when the decision to place their son Josh into rehabilitation center to help him overcome his weaknesses. Of course they argued this was a huge step to take and one that would separate their child from their family for a long period of time. One wanted him to remain close for treatment while the other thought it best he was sent away so Josh could get the best treatment possible and know that being separated from the family meant they were serious about helping him because it would hurt them just as much as it could hurt him to be away from his wife, children, sisters, brothers and his parents. Hollywood Life shared the details of their disagreement by revealing the following quote; “Michelle thought it was so harsh, she was willing to defy her husband and take Josh away from the area. She spoke at length with family and friends and said she was willing to DEFY Jim Bob if it meant protecting her son. It caused a great deal of friction between Jim Bob and Michelle and could well have destroyed their marriage if Michelle had taken Josh away. In the end, Jim Bob was able to convince Michelle it was for the best and she allowed the punishment to be carried out.”
Prayers and thoughts of strength are with Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar as they work together to get through these current struggles as they have over the years to keep their family whole, together and following the right path they have always believed in with close ties to each other, faith and love. Regardless of what you’ve heard and read the Duggar’s have no intentions of divorcing, their marriage isn’t falling apart, they are doing fine and continuing to work at making their marriage work as they have every day since they were first wed as husband and wife.