Happy New Year! It is now officially the New Year in parts of the world. Chicago is awaiting its turn to celebrate. You may be thinking of making some New Year’s resolutions. But instead of playing that losing game again this year, I recommend a different approach.
Walt Disney said, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” There are two parts to that equation for success: dreaming and doing. Now that you have dreamed up your ideal life ( read part one in this series) and banished your inner nay-sayer from the kingdom of your life (check out part two in this series), it’s time to take each goal and break it down into manageable steps. Write down your roadmap to the life you wish in every facet of your life that needs improvement.
Develop willpower, reward your triumphs along the way – even if it’s just a pat on the back you give yourself, keep striving no matter what! Deflect excuses (such as “I’m too tired tonight”) and don’t allow others to derail you either (i.e., if you’re trying to lose weight, don’t give in, no matter how your friends coax and tempt you; avoid those sweets!)
Realize that structure is important to set and attain goals: Establish a timeline (i.e., I will lose 10 pounds by January 31), a specific plan (research, plan, map out your path to your goal), measure your goals (i.e., for the weight loss goal, weigh yourself regularly, have someone hold you accountable, record your progress), and stick with your plan. Most important: If you should fall short of your objective, instead of getting down on yourself, muster up the aggression of a charging bull and lunge headlong toward your goals.
In the meantime, along with a to-do list of stuff you ought to be doing every day to start making your dreams come true, add to that list the things you love doing. For example, that could be dancing, though maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve actually gone out dancing. Dance to at least one whole song a day that moves you! If you will also be working out to improve your image and fitness and health, this will help with your dancing. Dancing can be a workout itself. Most important: you enjoy it. If you want to take it to the next level, dance classes might be for you. Perhaps you’ll one day find yourself dancing out on the town again.
The important thing, however, is to do what you love, every day! This feeds your soul in so many ways. This keeps joy in your daily life, even when the going gets tough. At the end of the day when you lay your head down, even if you failed to meet a goal, you can at least smile, because you got to something you enjoy.
One more thing: Surprise, your dreams may change! Let say you start out with a dream to make it to the top of the corporate ladder, then you get there and realize you’re not enjoying that lifestyle as you thought you would and you’d rather be living in the country growing your own sustainable garden with a spouse and ten adopted kids from all over the world. That’s okay! Follow your heart. Trust your heart; it will not steer you wrong.
In fact, your body is part of what makes up your whole being, and – not to scare you, but people have been known to have heart attacks or develop diseases while on the wrong path, and once realizing this and turning their lives around, become perfectly healthy again. You may think that sounds like a miracle, but it’s really just being in tune to yourself. So keep in close touch with the inner you: Are you becoming happier and happier? Is a sense of calm, contentment and inner peace illuminating ever brighter within you?
Yes you can live the life you want. Start TODAY doing something you love. And also start today – yes, today, not tomorrow, even if you have a New Year’s Eve hangover — working toward your ideal life. Get busy and stay happy. I wish you your happiest New Year yet and a whole happy life ahead! START NOW.