In the world or recreational drugs there are several groups that can be described and studied. For simplicity the two groups of interest in regard to dating, are the younger generation and the older generation. Some like to call them old-school versus new-school. In this respect, old-school will be those from 60 to 100. This includes those who first experienced recreational drugs in the 1960’s when they were teenagers. In contrast, the youngsters aged 20 to 59 grew up with drugs all around them from grade school onward.
The old-school (sixty and older) were mostly those who didn’t get involved in drug use. Many didn’t take any drugs and only watched as they saw drug use proliferate in younger generations. This is not to say that there aren’t any pot heads or cocaine users today in their seventies. There are. However, generally speaking, many in the older age group didn’t have as many drug related experiences.
In contrast, the younger generation has seen many, either try recreational drugs, or use drugs regularly. The younger the population the more prevalent the use. Today we find some children getting involved with drugs as young as 8 years of age; a terrible commentary on drug use and abuse, and the lack of deterrents in America. And while an eight year old isn’t going on formal dates, drugs do help him/her to engage in sexual activities that were previously unheard in such a young population many years ago.
So what makes recreational drugs so appealing, especially as they relate to dating? In a nut shell, drugs are another, yet more powerful, method to let down sexual inhibitions and defenses. Drugs are the new alcohol used by men to seduce women. They are even used for same-sex seduction. Though moral codes and sexual taboos have fallen by the wayside, there is still a reluctance for most women to hop into bed with just anyone, while guys, generally speaking, are much more promiscuous and need less stimulus to have sex. Men are often so horny that they can even have sex with inanimate objects (watch American Pie the movie). These observations regarding promiscuity may actually have little, if any, relevance when speaking of young women, who today are becoming just as promiscuous as their male counterparts.
The power one wields with drugs in obtaining sexual favors in exchange for a “high,” a “good time,” is enormous. Suddenly, some creepy guys can bed women they’d never have a chance with because both men and women, under the influence, will often do things they wouldn’t have done if sober.
The heavier the drug, the more potential to become a sex-slave to feed the habit. While this relates to hardcore drugs and is common knowledge for a pimp, many regular guys have figured this out with regard to recreational drugs. Not that it took much figuring. They found out that the promise of, “…a great high if you want to come over to my place. I have some really great shit to smoke,” works wonders. Sorry for the use of vulgar drug-culture vernacular, but that is really how it goes down. Now let’s face it, not too many old-school want to go to someone’s apartment to smoke their “shit.” To the contrary, this sounds rather gross and perverted to the older folks who have no idea what they just read.
Combined with the high levels of promiscuity in modern American culture, getting high to let down the few inhibitions left, might find someone engaging in strange sex with strange people. And who knows, they might even find their photos on social media sites copulating with medium sized farm animals. What’s worse is that some people dating “under the influence” might just come home with plague-like diseases that weren’t even known a generation ago.
So what’s the moral of recreational drug use and dating? If you do wish to engage in getting high, young or old, make sure it’s with someone you know and trust. Just getting high, real high, in strange places with strangers can get you into a lot of trouble. Dating a nice guy without time to truly vet his history and character, with the offer to smoke some weed could end up in an unwanted sexual experience or worse. Times have changed. Even today, if you don’t partake in recreational drugs, many will think you are not cool. Drug use has become completely acceptable in most younger social circles. Even old-school are engaging in recreational drugs, though to a lesser extent than their young counterparts, and even a lot less than when they were at Woodstock using recreational drugs much more than they have since they had their own children.
Older daters who find themselves on the market after becoming widowed or divorced, who have never experienced the drug culture, may be cajoled into trying recreational drugs as a form of peer pressure, just like seen with young, first time experimenters. “What? You never smoked pot? Oh my God, this is the greatest thing for stress and to help you unwind. You gotta try it, You’ll love this.” What is actually being said here is that once you get high, you’ll be ready to hop into bed.
You may find recreational drugs to be quite enjoyable. After all, there’s a reason drugs are so popular, even while being illegal. Especially pot, that has become the new-age martini. Just be careful that you know your partner before letting your defenses drop. Not to make you paranoid, but one must always be on the lookout for the “date rape” drug, Rohypnol and others. This drug can be put into your drink while you are in the powder room. The next thing you know is that you wake up naked, in your bed, and that nice guy you met is no where to be found. And that’s if your lucky. The world is a strange and dangerous place. Because of the importance of understanding date rape, a future article will be devoted to the subject. Never think that it can’t happen to you.
While old-school people can’t fathom the depths of depravity and decline going on in the new-school world, they might want to find a copy of Kids, a film by Larry Clark, that depicts the lives of teenagers circa 1995. The movie is compelling and a good warning to the youth of America, many of whom are on a spiral path to a world of suffering. Here’s the trailer for a taste of what was going on twenty years ago. Its not gotten any better.
While God may have promised to never destroy the world by flood again, he never mentioned not destroying us with STDs. Be safe, play safe and stay safe. If you are going to partake, moderation is the key, just like sensible use of alcohol.
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