You might be a runner, a cyclist, serial marathoner…any way you look at it, you like to stay active. It helps you maintain your sanity, stay fit, and you find it as your outlet away from the world. Your significant other however may be more comfortable spending the afternoon enjoying a bottomless brunch at a hookah bar or on the couch racking up the calories while indulging in Tostitos during 5 hour battle via Xbox. So you’re wondering how to get your partner to work out with you?
Have you spoken with your babe and invited them along with you to some of your events? How have they responded? Is it not their “thing”? Are you looking to get them to work out with you to spend more quality time together or to help them create a physical regimen for their own health consciousness? If your partner is not aware of the health benefits that go hand in hand with being regularly active, then maybe it’s time to try some that they may like and not necessarily on your to-do list.
If your partner is into sports, consider making it a game of Love and Basketball at your local courtyard. If they really like the outdoors, try a new activity where they don’t even realize they are working out like kayaking or renting some bikes getting around the city. If your mate is really not the outdoorsy type at all and would much rather just stay indoors then why not give it a go in the bedroom? That’s right! A nice romp session can burn a ton of calories, increase intimacy, and doesn’t have to be a one person physical activity. No one appreciates rolling around with a dead fish so do a little more than just lie there “looking” hot. Don’t be afraid to work up a good sweat!
If all else fails, do nothing. That’s right. You’ve spoken with them on it (communication), and you’ve attempted to engage in activities that are outside of your norm for them (compromise). Now it’s time to just do you. Continue with your routine as is. Maybe join some new workout or meetup groups even, making new fitness buddies and expanding your circle. This will hopefully encourage your mate from another angle to see the extended benefits from getting out and being active and they may follow suit. Either way, don’t pressure them and allow them to come to the decision on their own. The happier the two of you are as individuals, the happier the both of you will be for the sake of your relationship together.
Carla Ashley is a dating advisor based out of New York City. You can connect with her on Instagram, Twitter, and her Facebook Page.