As I stood over the person of a grief stricken, heavily pregnant woman, the only words I could think to speak were, “Peace to this woman” and “Peace to the child”. She had come to a conference I presume at the invite of a friend. While seeking a higher power, she came to the knowledge that her husband was leaving her, whilst she was preparing to bear a child at any moment. There was a noise and a shuffle in the crowd. Either she made her way or was ushered to the front of the masses, where I stood with my husband. In a moment she was lying on the ground, belly upward, crying and becoming more distraught and some thought distracting –trying to divert attention. Soon, the entire conference stopped. I found myself kneeling down near the woman and praying over her. I touched her belly, then her forehead, and her forehead, then her belly, wanting hope for her from within, but speaking only, “Peace to this woman,” and “Peace to the child.” She soon calmed and was lying still on the ground. I think someone held her hand, perhaps someone she knew. Then the attention of the crowd slowly returned to the stage and podium and the grand affair. I never saw that woman again. I trust that there was a manifestation of peace for her; and peace for the child.
We like to quote that God will not give us more than we can bear; yet, there seems times when all that we can bear, bears down all at once – like a fighter giving you the mocking hand – daring you to come closer and test your strength – whilst he believes that your strength will fail, and that right quickly. So how can this be that we are overwhelmed when the Creator’s burden is light; and though He beckons us to cast our cares upon Him? God does not tempt you. It is the enemy who is dumping care after care, after hurt, after frustration, at your feet, into your hands, and on your shoulders. He wants to bury you with distress, unrest, and commotion in your spirit that you may grow sick and tired with worry; that finally you might join his own chorus of haters full critical, condescending, complainers.
How do we find peace when our world is a mass of tangled lights – potential that we cannot seem to straighten out, whose purpose cannot be fulfilled for being caught up in the mess of electric commotion. Is this not how it feels when our joy is waning? We know, “There’s a light in here somewhere,” but our heart is not manifesting the lamp that we thought we had plugged in. How do we speak peace to ourselves when the enemy and shall we say, the “illusionist,” is masquerading havoc from every direction, whilst the Prince of Peace IS standing by? Reach out to Him with a song. Even when you cannot see your deliverer, you can touch Him with the feeling of your infirmities, and your language of love He will understand.
There may be times when you hurt so, that you cannot even pray about it. What do you say? You thought something like this would never happen to you. You’ve heard about it, but you are a servant of the Most High God. So, what gives? If you can muster a praise on the inside, you can open a portal to the King of Kings; and when you are at His feet, stay there (while continuing in praise) until the pray-er (that part of you who prays) comes back.
You may have heard of the 5 love languages pioneered by Dr. Chapman. Whether or not you recognize or understand them, you have both a natural and a spiritual love language. Using the mode of your love language is the most effective way for others to communicate to you how much they care about you, in a way that you chiefly understand. A common problem in human relationships is that communication lines are not meeting at any juncture because people are using different love languages that they themselves do not understand and that differ from those to whom they are trying to send a message.
Theoretically, you communicate love in primarily one or a combination of these modes: 1.) Words of Affirmation; 2.) Acts of Service; 3.) Receiving Gifts; 4.) Quality Time; and 5.) Physical Touch. In relationships, especially intimate relationships, you may not perceive affection that is not presented in the vein of your natural love language. Based on Dr. Chapman’s more than forty years of relationship observation and research, the concept of the natural love language is respected. I also agree that it has merit for couples, singles, marriage and family counseling. In the video, Oprah shares her natural love language quiz.
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