Have you been yo-yo dieting? Studies tell us that 65-95% of diets fail due to destructive habits. The weight loss industry is booming to the tune of (according to a Bloomberg Business report…) Americans just recently spent $40 billion a year on weight-loss programs and products!
This may be your addiction. Perhaps you have childhood associations with food such as when your mother forced you to eat vegetables or rewarded you with cookies when you cleaned your room or did your homework. Maybe you eat out of boredom or stress. A tense situation comes along and suddenly the donuts in the break room look like just the answer, for a minute.
Sometimes people eat when they’re not hungry, or they don’t know when they’re hungry. It’s no surprise that there is no internal scale to stop us from eating when we’re already full. If you eat too fast, that’s probably a foregone conclusion.
Often people feed a mood or make bad choices. The stop for a milkshake after an hour at the gym becomes a ritual because you deserve it—you already burned off a bunch of calories, why not? Do you have these conversations with yourself about justifying why it’s okay to eat greasy stuff—I was in a hurry; or why you ate the chocolate cake—it was a colleague’s birthday and you didn’t want to seem standoffish.
Diets are a common occurrence come Monday—we are going to start a diet on Monday so we’d better eat up over the weekend. Most dieters are looking for a quick fix in a powder, pill, or machine. The insecurity of taking on a task where most people fail looks better if a weight-watching plan guarantees success—and don’t they all?
Dr. Joseph Luciani says, “Sadly, for many, losing and maintaining a healthy weight may seem difficult–if not impossible. And yet, in spite a lifetime of countless frustrations with destructive eating habits—habits that inevitably resurface–the search for that elusive, mythical, effortless diet continues. And will continue as long as we keep ignoring one simple truth: losing weight and keeping it off has less to do with what you eat and just about everything to do with why you eat it.”
I’ve just finished Dr. Luciani’s book, Thin From Within: The Powerful Self-Coaching Program for Permanent Weight Loss. His idea is that you have to deal with the emotional struggles first. It’s important to learn self-talk to act as a shield against feelings of anxiety and depression that are often the first step leading you to the table to eat, trying to fill that empty void.
Luciani says, “I wrote Thin From Within for two reasons. The first had to do with curiosity. I wanted to know why having good intentions simply isn’t enough when it comes to changing destructive eating habits. Why seemingly disciplined women and men can successfully manage every other aspect of their lives, and yet when it comes to destructive eating, they appear helpless and lost.
“The second reason was because I wanted to share what I’ve learned from my own emotional struggle with food. Because of a blockage in one of my arteries, I was given the option of surgery or changing my lifestyle. To me this was a no-brainer. After considerable research, I chose a vegan lifestyle—no meat, chicken, eggs, or dairy. I also eliminated salty, fatty, and sweet snack food. Phew! Believe me, I now know the importance of mind over mouth!”
We like this book and learned quite a lot about the triggers that we need to shut down. We read about how to separate the emotional needs from what it means to be really hungry (or thirsty—many times it’s just thirst we need to fix). He says that learning to master your diet has more to do with your mind, not your mouth.
Thin From Within has concrete steps about how to assess real hunger, ideas on keeping a journal to write down what you are feeling that triggers eating between meals; about how to be mindful and stop reacting to the television commercials or pictures of food.
If you are tired of pouring money into diet pills, potions and programs, take a look at Thin From Within, it may be the first self-coaching program you’ll ever need.
Thin From Within: The Powerful Self-Coaching Program for Permanent Weight Loss by Dr. Joseph Luciani, AMACOM, retail $16.95. ISBN 13:978-0-8144-3678-3