As an LGBT parent, you have probably come across some people who have not accepted your sexual orientation or your choice to raise children. Even after same-sex marriage in the United States was legalized in June of 2015, discrimination still exists. Homophobic comments can make you want to scream, walk away, or order 12 pizzas to your anti-gay neighbor’s house. Here are 5 things that people say that you are sick of hearing.
“It is Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.”
This line has been used to discriminate against gay people and LGBT parents. Whether one believes in the Bible or does not, the existence of Adam and Eve does not negate a same-sex relationship between Adam and Steve, Dave and Mike, or Rachel and Eve. Any healthy relationship, heterosexual or gay, that is based on love, respect, and trust is something worth having.
Kids need a mother and a father.
What kids need is a secure foundation where both parents provide a loving home that is healthy for the child. This includes meeting basic needs of food, shelter, and clothing, as well emotional and psychological needs. Children should also be raised in an environment that is free of domestic violence, abuse, and substance use. A mother and father led household does not guarantee that any of those needs will be met. Any parents who can provide for those needs, gay or straight, should be able to raise children. Much of the research shows that kids of gay parents turn out just fine and actually show more resiliency. Look up Zach Wahls and Ella Robinson.
Homosexuality is unnatural.
Being gay may be unnatural for a heterosexual person, the same way that heterosexuality feels unnatural to a gay person. Gay people are born that way, their sexual orientation and attraction not able to controlled or changed. Whatever sexual orientation feels right to someone is their natural sexual orientation.
Gay parenting will turn kids gay.
This argument does not make logical sense. If so many gay people have been born to heterosexual parents, how can a gay parent make their kid gay? Yes, gay children can arise from gay parents, but so can heterosexual kids. Once again, sexual orientation is biological, not a product of one’s bad upbringing or environment.
LGBT people cannot procreate, therefore their relationships are sinful.
A relationship does not have to result in children. There are also heterosexual couples who cannot procreate. Does this make their relationship a sin and invalid? There are many ways that both LGBT and straight couples can start a family, including adoption, foster parenting, In-vitro fertilization, and taking in nieces, grandchildren, or nephews. Some couples also choose not to have children for various reasons. That decision does not make their relationship useless, sinful, or any less valid than relationships that result in children.
Gay parents, are there other statements that you are sick of hearing? Please leave a comment on my page.